The Secret of a Contented and Fulfilling Life

Beginning

I vividly remember the moment after receiving a kiss from my first love, and then hearing the longing words „I love you!“ I was in turmoil. I was torn.

On one hand, I also wanted to respond „I love you!“ and float in the mutual feeling of shared love. How could I not, as I was head over heels in love.

On the other hand, in my head, I heard my mother’s words: „Never express your feelings.“ And other advice in a similar vein: „If you show your love, you become weak and vulnerable. Men can then manipulate and abuse you.“

Motivational words in a young girl’s life, right?
At that moment, an „alarm“ went off in my head. What should I do? How should I act? How should I respond? What should I actually say?

In turmoil

You probably know such situations from your life. An alarm is sounding in your head, your heart is pulsating twice as fast as usual. Conflict between the mind and the heart. Minutes seem to drag on, and I don’t know what to do next. I feel that this situation is decisive. The tension could be cut with a knife. Make a wrong move, embarrass myself, and regret it for the rest of my life.

Fear

Fear! Yes, I am afraid. Afraid of losing my love. Afraid of embarrassing myself and becoming vulnerable. Fear or love? Reason or emotion? From romantic novels, I know that emotion is more important. But does it work in real life? I’ll try it and see. Now or never.

„I love you too!“ I respond and draw closer to him in another warm kiss.

Lesson learned

From that moment on, our mutual love grew even stronger. We enjoyed a few years together until our paths parted one day. It was a lesson, but I took away its wisdom.

My feelings matter. I can trust them.

The path of the heart

Between emotion and reason, I choose emotion. Between the path of reason or the path of the heart, I choose the HEART. When else but now? The path of the heart brought me to the Czech Republic 20 years ago. And now I have been living here for more than 20 years in a happy, loving, and functioning marriage.

The path of reason

Yes, I could have made a completely different decision back then. Perhaps my rationality would have advised me to continue hiding my feelings and living in fear. Out of prudence, I might have chosen a man whom I may not have loved, but the relationship would likely have been deemed reasonable.

With suppressed emotions, I would have raised my children, until one day…

Scenarios

One day, everything could overflow in my head, and I would run away from the relationship. Or my partner would completely fall in love with someone else because he felt that something is not quite right in our relationship. If I were lucky, I could fall in love to someone else and it would be love like thunder. But then divorce, shared custody, etc.

Reason versus emotion

What I experienced on that fateful day became fundamental for me. The heart won the conflict between the feelings and the mind. From the imbalance of reason-emotion, I consciously chose emotions. And here began my journey of emotional balance.

Journey of emotional balance

The importance of emotional balance will be the topic of this blog. Because it is the emotional balance that holds the secret to a contented and fulfilling life. My goal will be to inspire and accompany you on the journey to a happier life.

With love,
Diana